Grief

I met Donna when she came to see me after renowned medium Lisa Williams was in Denver. “I went to Lisa’s event hoping to be able to get a reading from her. I didn’t know there were any mediums here in Denver.”

I guess I need to do a better job of marketing, huh?

During her session with me she said as little as possible. She told me later that she didn’t trust me, and didn’t want to “feed” me anything. “I knew Lisa was real from watching her on television. I wasn’t sure about you though.” Still, when all was said and done, Donna and her daughter both knew that they had heard from her ex-husband through me. Since that time, Donna and I have become friends.

I spoke with Donna again today. She wanted to make another appointment with me. “I’m still not doing well with all of this. I just can’t seem to move on,” she told me.

“Honestly Donna,” I said, “it sounds to me as though you’ve got a lot of unfinished business with your ex-husband, and issues with forgiveness. Not with your husband, but with yourself.”

I can’t tell you how many times people have come to see me after someone passes away wishing they would have treated that person better, or had one last time to say, “I love you,” or “I’m sorry.” When someone says to me, “Please tell him I love him,” my response always is, “You just did.” I know what they’re trying to say though, “Please tell her I love her, because I didn’t let her know when she was alive.”

The odyssey through grief is a journey of healing. We are called to a place of healing. We are asked to let go, not of the memories, but of the pain that comes from the realization of where we fell short in our relationships with those we loved, and who loved us back.

Grief is the price we pay for love. It’s a pain that may lessen with time, but will never go away. I can’t make it stop hurting. There isn’t a medium in the world who can. It’s not our job.

What I can do is suggest that while your loved ones are alive, let them know how much you love them, in your words, and in your actions.

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