Forgiveness

One of the issues that I often see blocking people is that they’re living their lives somewhere in the past, trying to catch up to the present, wanting a different future. In fact, many times when I’m trying to help someone with an issue they’re dealing with now, I have to go back into their past to see where they’re stuck and why.

Living with unresolved issues is one of the reasons we have the relationships we have, the problems we face, even the jobs we hate.  When I’m working with someone and I see that they’re holding onto their past, consciously, or unconsciously, I try to move them into a place of forgiveness.

Forgiveness happens when you stop wishing the past were different. It’s not about forgetting what happened, but remembering and letting go.

The burden of carting the past around makes you weary, and unable to appreciate the present. It also leaves you unable to make real choices about your future. It’s time to leave this burden where it belongs. Keep the lessons and the love, but leave everything else behind you.

I feel your peace.

Anthony

https://www.anthonyquinata.com

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“Autobiography In Five Short Chapters” by Portia Nelson

I

I walk down the street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I fall in.

I am lost … I  am helpless.

It isn’t my fault.

It takes me forever to find my way out.

II

I walk down the same street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I pretend I don’t see it.

I fall in again.

I can’t believe I’m in the same place

but, it isn’t my fault.

It still takes a long time to get out.

III

I walk down the same street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I see it is there.

I still fall in … it’s a habit.

My eyes are open

I know where I am.

It is my fault.

I get out immediately.

IV

I walk down the same street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I walk around it.

V

I walk down another street.

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“I hated you…”

I found out last night that my father was taken to the hospital Monday evening @ 6 pm. He was diagnosed as high risk with pneumonia and COPD, but expected to be released today. So when my phone rang at a little after 6 am this morning, I thought it was news about him. Which is why I answered it.

It turned out to be Gerry, a woman who flew out to see me from New York after two of her sisters came to see me and raved about me. When her session was over, she was ranting and raving at me. What she expected out of the session and what she got were two different things, unfortunately. But more about that in a moment.

Gerry wanted to ask about my fees for phone sessions (they’re the same as face to face sessions right now). She also wanted to know if a medium session and a clairvoyant session should be booked separately (no, I can do them together, but it makes for a long session). She told me that she had a friend whom she thought might really benefit from talking to me.

Which surprised me after she admitted to me that after our session together she was anything but happy with me! She reminded me how she gave me the what for, and how my reading with her wasn’t anything like the one her sisters had. She literally walked away hating me.

This morning she apologized for screaming and cursing at me after our time together. There really was nothing to forgive, and I told her so. To be honest, I didn’t even remember her doing that. We did have a long discussion about what she expected, and why she didn’t get what she expected from me. I thought I’d talk about that, in general terms, in this post.

It’s been my experience that for some people, the word “psychic” is interchangeable with the word, “fortune teller.”  They go to psychics wanting to know what to expect in their future, and what they’re hoping to hear is that their future will be much better than their present or past without them having to do anything different. Kind of like hoping to hear that they’ll win the lotto, and the best part is that they don’t even have to buy a ticket!

Fortunately for me, since about 97% of my business comes from word of mouth, the people who come to see me usually aren’t expecting this sort of reading. Of course, there are exceptions.

When I start a Clairvoyant session I want people to understand that I’m not a counselor, a therapist, a psychologist or a doctor. I believe that when people are experiencing obstacles in their everyday lives, it’s a symptom of a deeper spiritual blockage. As a Clairvoyant, my job is to help people identify these blocks and help them overcome them. That’s why I don’t tell people what they want to hear, but what they need to hear.

So who am I to determine what people need to hear? Great question. The answer is that I’m only the messenger. I can only give what I get from the heart of the person I’m reading. If what they need is beyond my ability to help, I’ll refer them to people who can help, such as a therapist.

So why was she so upset with me after our session? If Gerry, and everyone else who has ever been upset with me after a session is honest, they’d tell you that they came to me wanting a map for their journey. The truth is that there isn’t a map. God doesn’t give us a map. What God does give, through me, is guidance.

Our fears are what make us feel that we need a map. But the truth is that even if Jesus, Buddha, Allah, or I, could give you a map, you’re the one who still has to make the journey.

If there’s a lesson to be learned here it’s that you do not go to any psychic and expect them to tell you how you should live your life. A really good psychic won’t do that; but will, by listening to your heart and the voice of God within you, help you discover the life your soul intended; a life that starts from love, and one that you’ll love living. Then he or she will guide you in that direction. That’s all we really can do. The rest is up to you.

Gerry, if you read this I want you to know that I’m really happy we spoke this morning. And now, as before, my wish for you is the very best life has to offer to you.

I feel your peace.

Anthony

http://www.anthonyquinata.com

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