“Even after all these years…”

Even after all these years, the Sun never says to the Earth, “You owe me.”

Hafiz

A friend of mine came by the house yesterday and we talked for a while when she asked me to help her with an issue she was struggling with. She didn’t tell me what the issue was, and I didn’t want her to. I asked her if I could hold one of her rings, which she handed to me.

I picked up a “heated discussion” that took place between her and another female. She said that she did get into an argument with another woman that didn’t go well. “I didn’t come from a place of love,” she told me. She tried to, but when the other woman didn’t see things her way, let’s just say the “discussion” went downhill from there. Interestingly, the argument started over an act of generosity three months before.

She asked me for my thoughts as to how she should handle what happened between them. When I asked her what she wanted from this situation she admitted she wanted to be “right.” A lot of people who see me for readings are wanting to be “right.” I often ask them the question from A Course In Miracles – “Would you rather be right, or would you rather be at peace?”

Typically people will say, “Well, I’d rather be at peace.” A quick read of their heart tells me that they’ll be at peace when the asshole my client’s arguing with admits they’re right!

I’d like to suggest something different. Whatever it is you want for yourself, want it for the other person even more.

You want to be “right?” Want them to be “right” even more.

You want to “win” an argument? Want them to “win” the argument even more.

You want to be loved? Love people more than you want them to love you.  I could go on, but you get the idea.

What do you think would have happened if my friend would have done this? What if she wanted the other woman to be right more than she needed to be right?

By doing this, you step out of your ego’s illusions, and you might just see where the person you’re arguing with is coming from. You might just find out that what you’re fighting for really isn’t worth fighting about.

Am I suggesting that you be a “doormat?” Not at all. Which is why I asked my friend if she gardens. She told me she did. “Do you ever find weeds in your garden?” I asked her.

“Yes.”

“What do you do?”

“I pull them out.”

“Do you hate weeds because they’re weeds? Or do you understand they’re doing what they do because that’s just what they do?”

Weed your garden of all the people who don’t belong in your life. But before you do, keep in mind that they are a reflection of you and may just be in your life to help you learn lessons of love. That’s why you whatever you want for yourself you want it for them even more. When you do, you’re truly coming from a place of love.

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