A few days ago a young woman came to see me at Cornerstone Books Metaphysical Fair. I told her not to tell me what she wanted to talk about, I would tell her. She agreed.
I quickly zeroed in on what she wanted to talk about, a relationship that recently ended. I told her I heard verbal abuse and she admitted that it was her who verbally abused him. She wanted to know when he’d be coming back.
“Well, it feels to me as though he’s already moved; he’s already found someone else.”
“Yes, he has,” she told me. “So you’re saying he’s not coming back to me?”
“Not in the way you’re hoping,” I told her. “Why would he?”
“But I’ve learned my lesson!” she almost yelled at me.
“No you haven’t, and the truth is, you really don’t want to. Would you like to know what your future holds for you? You’ll find someone else, just like him. Then you’ll verbally abuse him until he leaves. You’ll repeat this pattern until you figure it out.”
She looked dejected and went on the attack. “You haven’t told me anything.”
“I haven’t told you what you want to hear, but I am telling you what you need to hear.”
With that she paid my fee, and got up and left.
The lesson she felt she learned was that abusing her ex-boyfriend caused him to leave. What she hasn’t learned is why she did it in the first place. I could have told her, but she didn’t want to hear it.
My point is that it’s only when we embrace those parts of ourselves that we fear and even hate that we become free of them. Not until then.
I feel your peace.
Anthony
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