My father passed away a week ago in his sleep. Yesterday, I was having coffee with television producer, Sheri Kaz. She asked me how I was doing and I told her that I’m doing well, because I believe that grieving can be done in a couple of days. Any more than that and it’s more about you and your issues than the person’s death.
She disagreed with me. She told me how much she grieves her grandmother’s passing even though it’s been a few years now.
“What is it you’re grieving?” I asked her.
“Not being able to talk to her the way we used to,” she responded without even thinking about it.
“You just proved my point,” I told her. “You’re over her passing, what you’re grieving is not having the time you spent with her anymore. Really though, anytime you talk to her, she hears you, and guides you. You need to learn to listen.”
I’ve been reconnecting people with their loved ones for a while now and, ultimately, the messages from the Other Side are about moving on. That’s not to say that they don’t care about you anymore. They do. Typically even more so now. Which is why they want you to get on with your life, and not stay stuck in your grief.
I tell people all of the time that they don’t need me to reconnect them to their loved ones, because the truth is the connection is broken due to death. We just fail to listen.
Tonight, I’m in Los Angeles and I spent time with my sisters, Meridith and Nadine. We talked about all of the ways our father is still reaching out through the veil and making his presence known to us. That’s not to say we don’t miss him. We do, and we will. But as I explained to them when they told me the circumstances leading up to his crossing over, it was simply time for him to go.
My father’s funeral is next Wednesday. I’m sure that’s when it will become more real for me. I’m also hoping that when it does, I’ll be a much better Medium for it. I know my father would want that.
By the way, as we talked over our coffees, Sheri told me that she still talks to her grandmother all of the time. Then as she started answering my questions she realized that she also hears from her grandmother as well. She also realized she’s been listening all along.
I feel your peace.
Anthony
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