Now that I’m becoming an expert on grief, I’m re-dedicating myself ….

I have done more discernments, connecting people on the Other Side with those they left behind, than I can possibly count. Along the way, I’ve told people that they’re more the “experts” on grief, than me. Now, I’m becoming an expert as well.

Since my father’s passing on November 27, 2009, I’ve lost a brother-in-law to suicide (last month), a first cousin was murdered (just a few days ago), and my mother seems to be nearing the end of her life on this plane of existence.

Losing three people I love so close to each other … I’ll admit, it’s all been a bit much for me. Lack of sleep has been an issue, and I feel as though I’ve been run over by a Mac truck.

Just a few days ago, I was talking to my friends, Geri Jewell, and Josie Varga. Geri was talking about how many people she’s lost in the past three months. “It isn’t fair!” she told me.

I told Josie that I wasn’t sure how much longer I wanted to do “Medium” work. She asked me why I was thinking that way, since I’m so “gifted.” To be honest, it was a “business” decision. That sort of work takes a lot out of me, and I was getting many more appointments for Clairvoyant readings, which uses up a lot less of my energy.

Yesterday, I was hurting, I mean hurting. The thought came to me that I know that death doesn’t end life, love or relationships, and I was hurting bad. “How much more are people who can’t do what I do hurt when they lose someone they love?” I asked in prayer.

This is a tremendous gift, and with it comes incredible responsibility. I’m sorry to say this, but I forgot that basic fact.

So now, I’m rededicating myself to this work. I talked to Josie yesterday, and we are making plans to do presentations based on her book, and my ability.

Thank you for your patience with me, your love and support during this time.

I feel your peace.

Anthony

http://www.anthonyquinata.com

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“Let go of the guilt!”

I do a lot more readings and discernments than I write about … I’m just not comfortable talking about what was said in private. I’ve decided to write this because I’ve noticed a trend in the discernment sessions (where I reconnect people with loved ones they’ve lost). Whether it’s fact to face, or over the phone, most of those on the Other Side who are bringing their loved ones to me, have taken their own life.

These sessions are, for me, very difficult. The energy of suicide is heavy, as heavy as it gets. Last Saturday I did a discernment for a woman in California, over the phone. The Sunday before I kept getting the urgent feeling that her “daughter” needed to be there too. It was not only a feeling, but a thought, a persistent thought. As usual, I had no clue why, but I found out at the time for the reading.

Nancy (not her real name) and her daughter Stacy (not her real name) were on speaker phone for the session. There was a reluctance on the part of the spirit to come through initially, but then I heard a, “Hi Stacy!”

“Who are you?” I asked.

“I’m her sister.”

“Stacy, I have your sister here.”

That’s how the discernment began. Even though she and her mother disagreed, Jane (not her real name) kept insisting that she was responsible for her own passing. Later, it came out that Jane didn’t die until 18 days after she took a lethal dose of drugs and alcohol. Then I saw a plug being pulled from a socket, my symbol that someone had chosen to “pull the plug.”

Both Stacy and Nancy were dealing with guilt for different reasons. Nancy and Stacy had an argument the day Jane started down the path that led to her eventual passing. Stacy felt she should have left with her … perhaps Jane wouldn’t have done what she did, if she had.

Jane’s messages to them. “I’m okay. I love you. Let go of the guilt!”

I learned recently that my “job” isn’t to make people feel better – it’s just to pass on messages. The “job” of those on the Other Side is to guide people through their grief. Our job is to put one foot in front of the other as we move through our grief, no matter how those we loved crossed over from this life to the next.

I feel your peace,

Anthony

http://www.anthonyquinata.com

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