I’ll miss you, Natalie

Yesterday I received a phone call to let me know that my friend and colleague, Natalie Smith Blakeslee, died from lung cancer. Natalie was a very gifted Medium and psychic. She founded the Healing Hearts Network, for bereaved parents, after losing her own daughter, Carrie, to leukemia.

Natalie and I became friends a few years ago after she contacted me for a discernment in which she hoped to hear from Carrie, though I didn’t know that at the time. I also didn’t know that she was a Medium until after our session, but it was the basis of what was to become our friendship.

A couple of years ago she honored me by asking me to help her by doing readings with her for her support group, a few days before Christmas.  Together, we passed on messages from children to their parents, and Natalie received a message from Carrie as well. Not that it was the only time she heard from Carrie through me.

Once, I was on the phone with Natalie, and I conferenced in our mutual friend, Josie Varga. It was Natalie’s birthday, so I asked Carrie if there was any message she wanted to pass onto her mother. I kept getting references to “candy corn” and “candy kisses.”

“Natalie,” I said, “this makes absolutely no sense to me, but I hope it does to you. Carrie wants me to say, ‘candy kisses’ to you, and she’s showing me candy corn as well.” Natalie immediately burst into tears. It turns out that candy corn was Natalie’s favorite candy, and the day before, during her birthday party, she passed out candy kisses she received for Valentines Day from her husband, Steve. Natalie was a medium, but she was also a grieving mother.

She was also a great friend. She listened patiently and offered support as I spent on the phone with her talking about my frustration doing this work.

She had a television show called, “Healing Hearts,” and I’m honored to be able to say that I appeared as a guest on her show. Afterwards, we did two group sessions together. She kept saying how impressed she was with me, but I’m sure it wasn’t as much as I was with her and her gift.

Soon after hearing about her passing, I lit a candle for her.

Natalie, I love you and I’ll miss you, my friend. Steve and Allie, I’m here if you need me. I’ll keep all of you in my prayers.

Carrie, I’m happy you were there to meet your mother, and to help her transition over. I’m looking forward to seeing both of you, one day, when my work here is done, and my lessons are learned, as well.

 

I feel your peace.

Anthony

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Turning criticism into a blessing.

A young man came to see me a few days ago for a Clairvoyant session. Before we got started I told him that I could tell from his energy that he was a skeptic. He admitted that I was right, but he said he was going to keep an open mind throughout the session. After all, his wife had seen me twice before, once when she was a month pregnant and not showing. She became a believer in me when I mentioned to her that at one point she looked, to me, for about three seconds, as though she were nine months pregnant! When she came to see me again, she was definitely showing as at that time she was eight months pregnant. She told me she was wondering if there was anything to be worried about. I closed my eyes for a moment (she told me this, I don’t remember) and said that there will be a scare but not to worry because everything will be fine. When she started to deliver, the baby’s umbilical cord started to come out first, so the doctors did an emergency c-section. I was elated to meet their beautiful two month old daughter before the session.

During our time together Aaron (not his real name) did a lot of hard work looking at himself. He’s using what he learned to transform his life. I received a message from him thanking me for the session saying he hadn’t felt that close to God in years. This was after he called me an “asshole” a couple of times (yes, really). I laughed both times (yes, really).

Contrast that with his mother in law who flew in from California to see me about 6 months ago. After her session with me, she walked out of my house angry! According to Aaron and his wife, she admits that I was on the money, yet she’s still complaining about what was uncovered about her “false self.” I thought it was funny that she tells people about me to this day saying that I’m impressive, but she didn’t like what I had to say. According to Aaron and his wife all of her friends say to her, “Well, he’s telling you the truth!”

During my Clairvoyant sessions my first task is to see people the way God sees people – perfect. From that point on, I’m the mouthpiece of the Source of all that is, and nothing more. I don’t judge, and I don’t criticize. If people think I am doing that, I tell them to see the criticism as a blessing – that way it doesn’t hurt as much.

My ideal client is someone who comes to me to see why their life isn’t working and how they’re responsible. When they’re done judging me for having the nerve to say what I say to them, they pick out the kernels of truth, and go to work.

Truthfully, you don’t have to pay for my time to get similar information. Just ask people in your life – especially the one’s you don’t like – they’ll be happy to do it for free. And they don’t have to be psychic to know your truth!

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“I could die today.”

I was told today about a woman who has cancer, and how she’s reacting to it. I was also told that she’s very critical, judgmental, and controlling. I said that in that case, the disease may turn out to be a blessing.

People who are told that they have a terminal disease become obsessed with finding out any and all treatments, medications, and interventions that might help them live longer, or heal them of the disease altogether. This is only natural, and good. Scores of people have had their lives improved and even saved, by doing this.

And then there are those people whose efforts fail to stop the disease. If they are wise, they surrender into the act of dying.

When this happens another kind of healing takes place. Because the ending is now clear, all hurry and rushing around cease. After all, where are they rushing to? The outcome is death, and there’s no getting around it. Why rush to get there?

When we no longer have a “future,” fear and desperation eventually dissolve. We realize that all of our efforts to control everything and everyone is futile. That doesn’t mean that we become lazy or depressed. We become aware of what is truly valuable and worth our time and effort. This is ultimately the purpose of any terminal illness from a spiritual point of view.

I’d like to suggest an exercise to you. Whatever you do today, especially when it comes to the simplest acts, say to yourself, “I could die today.”

What if this is true?

What if you were to die today?

What feelings come up when you say this?

What people come to mind?

What dreams do you regret not accomplishing?

What responsibilities do you let go of?

Next week, pick another activity to say this to yourself while you’re doing it. Pick another one the week after that.

When we bring this consciousness into our daily lives we become more gentle – with ourselves and others. We become more aware of what is really important, useful and necessary in both our actions and attitudes. We become more focused and the speed with which things happen can take our breath away.

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“If I had ten more years…”

Not everyone who comes to see me for a Medium discernment wants to reconnect with someone they lost on the Other Side. Some people want to know what to expect when they get there. They want to know who, if anyone, would be there to greet him when their soul leaves this plane. They want to know what their life in the next level will be like. They want to talk about what this life was like.

Paul had bone cancer. His time to go was soon and he knew it.  He didn’t want to die, and he didn’t want to let go of those he loved here.

“I wish I had 10 more years to live,” he said.

“What would you do if you did?”

“I’d be more kind,” he sighed.

I feel your peace.

Anthony

http://www.anthonyquinata.com

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Sarah’s healing starts with an apology from the Other Side

I worked at a psychic fair this past Saturday and in between readings an astrologer named Sarah came up to me. “I have a question to ask you,” she said. “I was told recently that my father-in-law is still with me and I was wondering if it’s true.”

I did a quick check and told her, no, it wasn’t true. In fact, I told her, he was keeping his distance out of respect for her. The following is a condensed version of what happened next.

“He’s telling me that you two didn’t get along. Is that true?”

“Yeah,” Sarah said, nodding.

“He’s telling me he wasn’t easy to get along with. Anyway, he wants me to pass a message on to you. He says, ‘I’m sorry.'”

“Oh, now you’re going to make me cry!” Sarah said. I could see tears in her eyes. I don’t mean to make anyone cry, but I kept on, passing on the messages I was getting.

“He’s telling me you helped take care of him for a long time … and I mean a long time.”

“20 years. He had ‘Aspergers.’ It’s a form of autism.”

“Did you feed him? He’s showing me you had to feed him.”

“Yes, I did. And I changed his diapers too!”

“Well, he didn’t show me that, thank God! But he is telling me that he felt entitled to all of the care you gave him. He’s saying he’s had a change of heart since his ‘life review,’ and now he’s grateful for all that you’ve done for him. And he keeps saying that he’s sorry. He hopes you’ll forgive him.”

“I can do that,” Sarah said sniffling.

“Please pray for him too.”

Sarah nodded. “All I wanted to know was that he wasn’t with me. I wasn’t expecting an apology. I didn’t think that people had a change of heart once they crossed over.”

“I call the life review ‘the answers to all of life’s questions.’ After his review he saw he was wrong and he’s asking for your forgiveness. I realize that after 20 years that may not be the easiest thing to do, but it’s the best thing you can do. For his journey on the Other Side, and for yours, in this life.”

Sarah nodded and walked away. Later, as she left the fair she walked up to me and gave me a hug – something she had never done before in all of the years I’ve known her. Apparently she really did experience some healing after all.

I feel your peace.

Anthony

http://www.anthonyquinata.com

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“Even after all these years…”

Even after all these years, the Sun never says to the Earth, “You owe me.”

Hafiz

A friend of mine came by the house yesterday and we talked for a while when she asked me to help her with an issue she was struggling with. She didn’t tell me what the issue was, and I didn’t want her to. I asked her if I could hold one of her rings, which she handed to me.

I picked up a “heated discussion” that took place between her and another female. She said that she did get into an argument with another woman that didn’t go well. “I didn’t come from a place of love,” she told me. She tried to, but when the other woman didn’t see things her way, let’s just say the “discussion” went downhill from there. Interestingly, the argument started over an act of generosity three months before.

She asked me for my thoughts as to how she should handle what happened between them. When I asked her what she wanted from this situation she admitted she wanted to be “right.” A lot of people who see me for readings are wanting to be “right.” I often ask them the question from A Course In Miracles – “Would you rather be right, or would you rather be at peace?”

Typically people will say, “Well, I’d rather be at peace.” A quick read of their heart tells me that they’ll be at peace when the asshole my client’s arguing with admits they’re right!

I’d like to suggest something different. Whatever it is you want for yourself, want it for the other person even more.

You want to be “right?” Want them to be “right” even more.

You want to “win” an argument? Want them to “win” the argument even more.

You want to be loved? Love people more than you want them to love you.  I could go on, but you get the idea.

What do you think would have happened if my friend would have done this? What if she wanted the other woman to be right more than she needed to be right?

By doing this, you step out of your ego’s illusions, and you might just see where the person you’re arguing with is coming from. You might just find out that what you’re fighting for really isn’t worth fighting about.

Am I suggesting that you be a “doormat?” Not at all. Which is why I asked my friend if she gardens. She told me she did. “Do you ever find weeds in your garden?” I asked her.

“Yes.”

“What do you do?”

“I pull them out.”

“Do you hate weeds because they’re weeds? Or do you understand they’re doing what they do because that’s just what they do?”

Weed your garden of all the people who don’t belong in your life. But before you do, keep in mind that they are a reflection of you and may just be in your life to help you learn lessons of love. That’s why you whatever you want for yourself you want it for them even more. When you do, you’re truly coming from a place of love.

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“Morning” and “Afternoon” Spiritual Journeys

Whenever I’m doing a group (less than 500 people) session, or a seminar (more than 1,000 people), if I take the time to pay attention to the initial way people are applauding, it tells me a lot about them individually. Typically, I’ll take about 45 minutes talking about being a psychic, the after-life, and after-death communication. People who initially applaud enthusiastically, even wildly, will hang on to and accept every word I’m saying. People are applauding “warmly” are letting me know that they’re open, but not real sure about me, or what I have to say. People who aren’t applauding at all were usually brought there by someone else (typically, these are men dragged there by their wives or girlfriends).

I’ve been thinking a lot about this over the last week because of the clients I did readings for and what came out of them.

In my private practice, I don’t like people to tell me anything about themselves, other than their name. The reason  for this is because I do what I call a “book flap” reading which usually lasts anywhere from 10 to 15 minutes. During that time I take a look at what’s going on in their lives, I bring up what I’m getting and we discuss it. The concerns my clients have tell me a lot about where they are in their spiritual journey.

It hit me yesterday that there’s almost a “Before” and “After” period in people’s lives. In this “before” period, people are typically living their lives from their fears, not their truth.

For men in the “before” period, they’re mostly concerned about –

1. Wealth
2. Adventure
3. Achievement
4. Pleasure
5. Being respected

For women, they’re mostly concerned, about –

1. Family
2. Independence
3. Career
4. Fitting in
5. Appearance

If they’re in what I’m referring to as the “After” period of their lives, where their priorities shift and they’re living their lives with a sense of “mission” and less from fear. Men are more concerned about  –

1. Spirituality
2. Personal peace
3. Family
4. God’s will
5. Honesty

For women, their concerns center around –

1. Their own personal growth
2. A sense of self esteem
3. Spirituality
4. Happiness
5. Forgiveness

Where are you in the journey? Just something to think about.

I feel your peace.

Anthony

http://www.anthonyquinata.com

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Starting Over

I have to admit, I can be my own worst enemy. Why? Because I can be so damned impatient, and indecisive. Plus, I don’t really own and love the place I’m starting from.

I want to be one of the country’s most sought after psychics and spiritual teachers, but I’m not. If I’m honest, there’s an anger at myself at all the time I’ve “wasted.”

I’ve decided that today is a brand new starting point in my life. Starting today I’m going to use what I’ve got and learn from what has worked for me – but most importantly – I’m not going to see yourself through a version of me that is not there “yet.” Instead, I’m going to see myself now – in the moment – and embrace the world with the knowledge of my real power.

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“Thank you for letting me know in advance…”

I sent Kathie a note telling her I posted the “Out of Darkness” information here. I received this e-mail back this morning –

I don’t know if you have talked to Josie [Varga] lately. I remember when you did my reading you said to watch my heart. I thought you were talking about  the high blood pressure.

I am now scheduled to have surgery to correct my heart rate as it has gone as high as 180 in the ER. I went in because it was 160. I have SVT [Supraventricular tachcardia (rapid heart beat)] and this is why they going to go in and correct the heart rate.

Thanks for letting me know in advance that this was going to happen so it was not a shock to me. Thank you and my angel Chrissie.

Hugs,

Blessings,

Kathie

Dear Kathie,

You are in my prayers.

I feel your peace.

Anthony

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Out of Darkness Walk for suicide prevention

Dear Friend

I will be joining with thousands of people nationwide this fall to walk in AFSP’s 2009 Out of the Darkness Community Walk to benefit the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. I would appreciate any support that you give me for this worthwhile cause.

The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention is at the forefront of research education and prevention initiatives designed to reduce loss of life from suicide. With more than 32000 lives lost each year in the U.S. And over one million worldwide the importance of AFSP’s mission has never been greater nor our work more urgent.

I hope you will consider supporting my participation in this event. Any contribution will help the work of AFSPand all donations are 100% tax deductible.

Donating online is safe and easy! To make an online donation please click the “Support This Participant” button on this page.

Thank you for visiting my fundraising page!
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I am walking in memory of my angel Chrissie and in memory of angel Mel and Justine.

Thanks

Kathie             

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