“I’ve learned many things…” A mother shares her story about her journey through grief.

After I published the last post I was eating dinner when I received a call from my friend Jennifer. I talked about her in a previous post, along with her husband Mike. They’re good friends who have helped, and supported me on this journey.

Jennifer told me that the 24 year old son of friends of theirs was a victim of suicide this past Saturday. It broke my heart to hear the news even though I didn’t know him, or his family. Suicide is a tragedy period. I’ll write something about suicide in a day or so, but for now, I want to honor parents who have lost a child, no matter how old that child is.

I have a child who died many years ago. I think losing a child is the worst pain anyone can experience. So I decided to post this letter tonight.

A couple of years ago I was honored to be asked by Medium, and bereaved mom, Natalie Blakeslee-Smith to join her doing readings on-line for her group of bereaved parents. One of the parents was Rosaleen Bellamy. During the session I reconnected Rosaleen with her daughter Denise.

What follows is Rosaleen’s story about that event. You can find Natalie @ http://www.loveandlight.com/.

I’ve Learned Many Things…

When my only daughter Denise was born the doctor let an intern deliver her.  When they brought her to me her was so black and blue I started to cry.  I was told that this happens sometimes and she would be fine.  But I knew in my heart that I would not have her for very long and something said to me, “Enjoy her because she won’t be with you for long.” This feeling stayed with me all the time and haunted me.  So I held on to every moment I had with her. Denise was born July 14th., 1978 and died December 28th., 1984.  She was 6 -1/2 yrs. young when she crossed over from a brain tumor.

For a year Denise had violent headaches and was vomiting and lost a pile of weight.  I took Denise to our family doctor, and he said there was nothing wrong with her.  When I suggested a brain tumor, the doctor laughed in my face and said I was an overprotective mother.  This bothered me to no end so I took Denise to my old  doctor and he knew right away; he said to me, “I am sorry Rosaleen, you have a very sick little girl here.” I knew then she would not live and my heart just sank.

When they operated the brain surgeon could only get 1/3 of the tumor and the cancer spread throughout her little body. The doctor told my hubby and me that he could save her BUT she would be in a wheelchair and not likely know us and be in the vegetable state… well, we just couldn’t let this happen to our beautiful little girl.  She suffered a great deal as they were always doing something to her to keep her going as long as they could.  I was told Denise lived as long as she did because I wasn’t ready to let her go.

Now after 23 yrs. I still miss my Angel with every breath I take and I always will.  I have learned many things during her illness and since Denise crossed over.., one big one is don’t take “no” for an answer.  If you want health care professionals, etc…, to hear you, make sure you don’t give up… talk loud and long.  I’ve also learned to reach out and get help for everything I needed help with.

I needed help with the depression, grief and the many, many stages and changes I went through.  I had one lady who was a psychologist and she helped me through so much.

I am not saying it is easy by any means but you can make it… I have. It takes time and patience. Don’t try to do it by yourself when there is so much help out there.  Don’t try to do it by yourself when there is so much help out there.  It is not being weak to seek out help and don’t let anyone let you think it is.   It isn’t…..we can’t be strong all the time…life takes its toll on us.  Accept each step as it comes if you can… with help you will….I did.  It was a tough haul but it can, and does, get a little easier to bear when you have people who care.

If there is anything you wish to do in a special way for your child then do it…..if it helps you … do it.  I, and many other moms and dads have made little stands up with pictures and candles, and whatever helps us to stay connected with our children.  My little memorial is quite lovely and I made a small pond area and named it “Denise’s pond”.  Doing things like this truly helped me.

Talking with others who understand what you’re going through is important also… you need love and understanding.  We all do when we are grieving for our children.  Group support is something I didn’t have and wish I did, especially internet support groups, since we didn’t have them back that long ago.  Joining a bereavement group is very good idea but you’ll need find one that is best for you.

I am on a terrific grief group calling Healing Hearts Haven. This is where I met Anthony.  I had heard that he was very good at what he does but I did not know him and had never even heard of him until then. Natalie the moderator had a Chat session and invited Anthony.  I remember being 10-15 minutes late, I was busy and forgot actually.  So on I went to the chat and Anthony was talking to everyone and before I said anything I called to my daughter Denise… ‘Please honey, come see Mommy tonight’  for I had never been read on the chats before.

All of a sudden I had the most peaceful feeling come over me and I knew Denise was right beside me… what an awesome feeling.  Then [suddenly]  Anthony said… I have about a 4 year old little girl here…..I started crying and couldn’t answer him…..Natalie and one of the other girls said… “that is Denise … Rosaleen’s daughter”… then I came to.  I said, “yes that is my daughter Denise.”

Well the reading was fantastic!!!  He told me things no one would have known really … not him for sure … I was stunned.  One thing he told me was … “your daughter loves the Angel you put on the tree for her this year.”  How could he know?? Every year I buy an Angel for the tree…..I get Denise to let me know which one every year.

He mentioned the memorial I have set up for Denise and “Denise loves this also,” he said.  He told me things about my Dad that no one knew!   He made me feel so much better and knowing my Mom and Dad are with my daughter, it made me feel so very happy!!

Anthony also told me Denise had a long term illness then told me it was cancer.  And told me she had suffered a great deal which she had.  I cried all the way through this reading…..for many reasons but the main one was…. Anthony was right on with everything he said!

I thank you again Anthony for the gift you have and that you shared with us that night.  I so appreciate what you have done for me.  God Bless you my friend for all the comfort you give to others.

Love and light,

Rosaleen Bellamy.

I feel your peace.

Anthony

https://www.anthonyquinata.com

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Life isn’t supposed to hurt!

I love to tell stories to illustrate what I’m trying to get across. I’ve been stopped by people at a bookstore or airport who tell me that they’ve been to an event  I was at, and will then tell me their favorite story.

I’d like to tell you one now about a tailor I went to see in New York City. I wanted a suit and he came highly recommended. I picked out the fabric I wanted, was measured, and told to come back in two weeks; the suit would be ready then.

When I came back and tried the suit on, the left sleeve was too short. I mentioned this to the tailor who said, “The sleeve isn’t too short. Your arm is too long! Pull your arm up at the shoulder and you’ll see that the sleeve fits perfectly.”

Well, this guy did come highly recommended, so that’s what I did. But now, the collar was rounded and stuck up in the air!

“The collar is perfect!” he told me. “Just stick your neck out a bit, and then bend your shoulders.”

I did, and the collar laid flat, but my rear was sticking out in the air! “There’s nothing wrong with the back of the suit,” the tailor reassured me. “Just hunch your back, bend back a little and … see! Your rear is perfectly covered! I told you the suit is perfect!”

So I paid for the suit and walked out of the store. A couple of really good looking women walked by me trying not to stare. I still heard one of them say, “That poor guy! He really is crippled isn’t he?”

Her friend looked back at me and said, “Yeah, but did you see that suit? It fits him perfectly!”

I was reminded of this story when a husband and wife came to see me. Both of them are dentists. One of them, the husband, should be; the other one, shouldn’t. I mentioned this at the start of the session.

“What should I be doing?” she asked.

“Cooking,” I said, “it’s your passion isn’t it?”

She admitted she loved cooking but couldn’t see herself doing it. “Why not?” I asked.

“It doesn’t have the status of dentistry,” she told me.

“Would you rather have the ‘status,’ I asked doing “finger quotes” in the air, “or would you rather be happy?”

“How do you know that I’d be happier doing that?” she asked.

“Because there’s a lot of fear coming from your heart,” I told her. “And what we fear the most is what we want the most. Besides, trying telling Gordon Ramsey and Wolfgang Puck that they don’t have ‘status.'”

As the session went on, her husband, and admitted skeptic kept agreeing with what I was saying. He even found the session to be an opportunity to tell his wife he didn’t think she was happy being a dentist, but he didn’t think she should “waste” her education by stopping doing dentistry either.

“What am I supposed to do?” she asked. “Quit working and go to culinary school?”

“You can always go to school and continue working. What you’re not supposed to do is pretend that your life doesn’t hurt.” With that she started crying which told me that what I said hit home.

Our lives are often out of whack because we listen to “experts” tell us what’s right for us rather than figuring it out for ourselves. Look into your heart, the answers you’re looking for are there.

I feel your peace.

Anthony

http://www.anthonyquinata.com

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Psychic photo readings

I received a number of questions from today Mary in Marrakesh. Because she’s in Northern Africa she thought she wouldn’t be able to receive a reading from me. I suggested a “photo reading.” It’s typically how I do readings for people around the U.S. as well as people in different parts of the world. She asked me a number of questions regarding “photo readings” and I wanted to answer them in this post.

But first I want to say, “Thank you Mary for taking the time to write to me and ask these great questions!”

• In searching for a photo, I wonder if it matters if the photo is recent, or if a photo from ten years ago would have the same energy? Or is it even better to have an old photo to compare with a new photo? Or does that make no difference?

Honestly Mary, I prefer a more recent photo simply because it’s been my experience that it’ll convey more to me about your current situation. I once was given an old photo and mentioned that the woman hung herself. I was told that she did three days after the photo was taken. I believe it’s because when the photo was taken she had already made up her mind to do so. I’m not sure I would have gotten that same impression had I been shown a photo taken ten years before.

• In a family photo reading if one is not able to come up with all three family members in one photo together (since one person usually has to stand out to take a photo of the others), would you get the same energies to read off of with two photos that contained all the family members, laid out,  side-by-side?  Or if you wanted to read the “family” energies, should they all be in the same photo?

If someone is in the picture, I’m able to read their energy, even if it takes two different photos to see the entire family.

• Are you able to look at a photo on the computer and read the same energies as in a physical photo?  Do you read them off a computer screen, or do you first print them out on a paper?

The very first photo reading I ever did was on a pic sent to me through the Internet via e-mail. As soon as I scrolled down the e-mail to the pic and looked at it I knew she was angry and lonely. Of course, I read regular photos as well, but I haven’t noticed a difference.

Just as an aside, once I was handed an envelope with a letter inside written to the woman who had an appointment with me. I started “reading” what was in the letter contained within the envelope. She kept asking, “Aren’t you going to take the letter out?” Until she realized I answered all of the letter writer’s questions without having to do so.

It’s the energy I’m reading, not the pic (or the letter) itself.

• I have heard that some mediums can look at a photo (for example of a missing person) and be able to tell you whether that person is still alive, or whether they are dead.  Are you able to do that?  Have you ever helped out (or thought of helping out) in any police investigations?

Yes, I can. The energy from the photo will either be “alive” or “flat.”

I have never “officially” helped out in a police investigation, if you get my drift. Go to my website and you’ll see that there is a testimonial in “Alive In My Heart,” under S.B. that talks about a similar circumstance.

There was a forensic psychologist who worked with a local police department and whom, I was told, was considering trying to hire me as a “consultant.”

Another aside, the owner of the bookstore I do readings at is a friend of mine. Whenever she’s thinking of hiring a new employee she hands me the  resumes and I turn them face down, put my hand on the back of each one and eventually say, “This is the one I think you should consider.” Invariably, it’s the person she’s thinking of hiring!

• For a photo reading, is a recent photo best, or does the same energy come through on a person whether the photo is current (like within a few weeks or months), or whether it is ten years old?

Personally I prefer a newer one, the more recent the better. I was recently asked to help a woman who kept to see me for a medium discernment. Her sister died under mysterious circumstances. The police wrote it off as a suicide. Her family thinks she was murdered. I told them if they provided me with a photo as close to the time that she passed away as possible, it would help.

• The last question, should I share with you (or not) what I am most hoping to hear about in a family photo reading?  I’ve been reading your recent posts about preferring people not to share anything in advance, is why I am asking.  If what I’m hoping to hear about doesn’t come up, I suppose I could ask after you share your impressions….what do you think?The question of new or old photos is rather important to me, because one of the things I’m trying to decide  is whether it’s worth even looking for an older family photo (because I don’t have any easily findable in digital format), or whether I should try to take a couple of new photos (for example, one of my daughter and myself, one of my husband and myself, and one of my daughter and husband together–then it would be easy to have all three family members, in a photo with the others, which would sort of be like a family photo?  Someone has to take the picture, is the problem….) What is your suggestion about this?

Honestly Mary, if you want to send three pics of each of you individually that would work for me. As far as questions go, I would prefer that you wait until towards the end of the session. Since I’m sure it would be cost prohibitive to call me all the way from Africa, we can do the reading through e-mail, or better still Instant Messaging. IMing is usually how I do readings for people that are outside the Continental US.

Anthony, I’ve never had a photo reading, but I’ve actually always wanted one…..I guess being psychic, you must have picked up on that!  Thank you so, so much.  I’m really excited about it.

Best regards,
Mary

Mary, I’m really happy you’re so excited! I’m looking forward to helping you.

I feel your peace.

Anthony

http://www.anthonyquinata

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Forgiveness

One of the issues that I often see blocking people is that they’re living their lives somewhere in the past, trying to catch up to the present, wanting a different future. In fact, many times when I’m trying to help someone with an issue they’re dealing with now, I have to go back into their past to see where they’re stuck and why.

Living with unresolved issues is one of the reasons we have the relationships we have, the problems we face, even the jobs we hate.  When I’m working with someone and I see that they’re holding onto their past, consciously, or unconsciously, I try to move them into a place of forgiveness.

Forgiveness happens when you stop wishing the past were different. It’s not about forgetting what happened, but remembering and letting go.

The burden of carting the past around makes you weary, and unable to appreciate the present. It also leaves you unable to make real choices about your future. It’s time to leave this burden where it belongs. Keep the lessons and the love, but leave everything else behind you.

I feel your peace.

Anthony

https://www.anthonyquinata.com

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“Autobiography In Five Short Chapters” by Portia Nelson

I

I walk down the street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I fall in.

I am lost … I  am helpless.

It isn’t my fault.

It takes me forever to find my way out.

II

I walk down the same street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I pretend I don’t see it.

I fall in again.

I can’t believe I’m in the same place

but, it isn’t my fault.

It still takes a long time to get out.

III

I walk down the same street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I see it is there.

I still fall in … it’s a habit.

My eyes are open

I know where I am.

It is my fault.

I get out immediately.

IV

I walk down the same street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I walk around it.

V

I walk down another street.

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“I hated you…”

I found out last night that my father was taken to the hospital Monday evening @ 6 pm. He was diagnosed as high risk with pneumonia and COPD, but expected to be released today. So when my phone rang at a little after 6 am this morning, I thought it was news about him. Which is why I answered it.

It turned out to be Gerry, a woman who flew out to see me from New York after two of her sisters came to see me and raved about me. When her session was over, she was ranting and raving at me. What she expected out of the session and what she got were two different things, unfortunately. But more about that in a moment.

Gerry wanted to ask about my fees for phone sessions (they’re the same as face to face sessions right now). She also wanted to know if a medium session and a clairvoyant session should be booked separately (no, I can do them together, but it makes for a long session). She told me that she had a friend whom she thought might really benefit from talking to me.

Which surprised me after she admitted to me that after our session together she was anything but happy with me! She reminded me how she gave me the what for, and how my reading with her wasn’t anything like the one her sisters had. She literally walked away hating me.

This morning she apologized for screaming and cursing at me after our time together. There really was nothing to forgive, and I told her so. To be honest, I didn’t even remember her doing that. We did have a long discussion about what she expected, and why she didn’t get what she expected from me. I thought I’d talk about that, in general terms, in this post.

It’s been my experience that for some people, the word “psychic” is interchangeable with the word, “fortune teller.”  They go to psychics wanting to know what to expect in their future, and what they’re hoping to hear is that their future will be much better than their present or past without them having to do anything different. Kind of like hoping to hear that they’ll win the lotto, and the best part is that they don’t even have to buy a ticket!

Fortunately for me, since about 97% of my business comes from word of mouth, the people who come to see me usually aren’t expecting this sort of reading. Of course, there are exceptions.

When I start a Clairvoyant session I want people to understand that I’m not a counselor, a therapist, a psychologist or a doctor. I believe that when people are experiencing obstacles in their everyday lives, it’s a symptom of a deeper spiritual blockage. As a Clairvoyant, my job is to help people identify these blocks and help them overcome them. That’s why I don’t tell people what they want to hear, but what they need to hear.

So who am I to determine what people need to hear? Great question. The answer is that I’m only the messenger. I can only give what I get from the heart of the person I’m reading. If what they need is beyond my ability to help, I’ll refer them to people who can help, such as a therapist.

So why was she so upset with me after our session? If Gerry, and everyone else who has ever been upset with me after a session is honest, they’d tell you that they came to me wanting a map for their journey. The truth is that there isn’t a map. God doesn’t give us a map. What God does give, through me, is guidance.

Our fears are what make us feel that we need a map. But the truth is that even if Jesus, Buddha, Allah, or I, could give you a map, you’re the one who still has to make the journey.

If there’s a lesson to be learned here it’s that you do not go to any psychic and expect them to tell you how you should live your life. A really good psychic won’t do that; but will, by listening to your heart and the voice of God within you, help you discover the life your soul intended; a life that starts from love, and one that you’ll love living. Then he or she will guide you in that direction. That’s all we really can do. The rest is up to you.

Gerry, if you read this I want you to know that I’m really happy we spoke this morning. And now, as before, my wish for you is the very best life has to offer to you.

I feel your peace.

Anthony

http://www.anthonyquinata.com

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What is a “Clairvoyant?”

I received a great question from “maygirl” in response to my last post, “Death does not end life, love, or relationships. I promise.” It was such a good question I wanted to reprint it [for the most part]  and answer it here.

Hi Anthony,

I don’t know if I should ask you this but I’m going to ask you regardless. What is [a] clairvoyant? And is it true that [a] difficult or traumatic childhood makes you more sensitive towards psychic abilities. I am just a student of spirituality and I am a bit curious about this. I hope you don’t mind me asking these questions.

…

Take care. I hope you achieve whatever you want.

God bless.

“Clairvoyance” is a French word which means, “clear seeing.” A clairvoyant is someone who receives much of their information visually. During a session in which someone is asking me to help them with their life, relationships, career, etc., I often “see” images, symbols and even what I call a film. That’s why I refer to myself as a Clairvoyant.

Another reason is that I don’t use any tools such as Tarot cards, rune stones, pendulums, etc. I’m simply a mouthpiece for God.

To answer your second question I’ll quote Dr. William Roll, a parapsychologist. “People who are psychic, at least more psychic than the rest of us, seem to have had a stressful childhood. They have their antenna up for pain.”

I can tell you that this was certainly true for me.

Thank you, again, for your questions. I hope I answered them well enough for you, and I want to wish you the very best life has to offer to you.

I feel your peace.

Anthony

http://www.anthonyquinata.com

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Death does not end life, love or relationships. I promise.

When it comes to doing a discernment for someone I have a couple of rules. One of them is I’m not to know who the sitter is hoping to reconnect with. If they tell me, they’re “disqualified” from receiving a reading.

The second is that once you receive a discernment, you cannot come back for another for at least a year. Why is that? Well, in all honesty, I’d prefer that once a person has come to see me that they never come back! After all, if I did my job right the first time, you’d know that death does not end life, love or relationships. Of course, there are exceptions to the rule.

When Stacy came to my office at my home in June, she told me that she had seen me at a group event [less than 500 people] a year and a half before. “Unfortunately, due to the size of the group you weren’t able to spend much time with me, but you brought my mother through that night. Even though you only spent a few minutes with me I knew it was her because you had her mannerisms, and even the way she said things, down pat.”

It wasn’t her mother who came through for her during this session, it was her older brother.  The following are excerpts from the discernment.

“I have a male here who making me feel that you two are close. He’s hugging you and smiling as a matter of fact. He’s claiming to be your older brother. Does that make sense? You lost your older brother?”

“Yes.”

“Oh my God, he’s telling me you’re the only one left. Is that true?”

“Yes.”

“He passed after your mother, who passed after your father.”

“Yes.”

“You’re all alone so to speak, and I say that because your brother’s telling me that you’re married.”

“Yes, I’m married.”

“Your brother wants me to tell you to quit apologizing. He says he’s the one who needs to apologize to you for leaving you alone. Do you understand this?”

“Yes. But I need to apologize to him.”

“He’s motioning with his hands (I demonstrate her what I’m seeing). When I see this, the person is taking responsibility for their passing. Now, he’s talking about alcohol. Was he an alcoholic? My head is really fuzzy, and I’m feeling woozy.”

“Yes, he was an alcoholic.”

“I want to say that drinking is what caused him to lose his life.”

“Yes.”

“In a very real way, he wanted to die … to commit suicide. He makes me feel like he took your mother’s passing very hard.”

“He did.”

“Well, she was there to meet him when he died, along with your father to cross him over. He wants you to know he’s okay. He’s also telling me you’re still his guardian angel. Does that make sense?”

This hit home because for the first time during the session Stacy openly wept. “I used to take care of him. When I’d take him to the hospital he’d thank my husband for letting him ‘borrow’ me and he’d say that I was his ‘angel.'”

“Wait a minute, he’s telling me you wrote him an apology letter, but it was an e-mail? Does that make sense?”

“I did! Just last night! I wrote him an e-mail telling him how sorry I was I wasn’t there for him when he died.”

“Well, he’s telling me you’re always apologizing to him. I mean always.”

“I do apologize to him all of the time! I wasn’t there in time to save him. I keep thinking, ‘If only I had gotten to him sooner, he wouldn’t have died.'”

“He wants you to know he wanted to die. There’s nothing you could have done. He gave up. He wanted to be with your mother and father, and now he is. He’s making peace with his life, and he wants to make peace with you. Praying for him will help him do that.

Someday, you’ll be a family again. You and your husband, and his family … you’ll all be together again.”

“Really? Do you really think that we’ll all be together again?” she asked, smiling through her tears.

“Personally?” I said, “I know you will. I promise you that you’ll all be together again one day. Keep praying for them until that day.”

A few weeks later I received a card with the following written in it –

Dear Anthony,

I am so sorry this is so late. I met with you … (at your home). You made contact with my Mom, Brother, and briefly with my father.

Thank you so much for sharing your gift with the world. I had been so upset @ my brother’s passing because I felt I should have gotten him to the hospital before he died. Your gift made me realize that he is at peace and that I would not have been able to change the outcome.

I am still grieving my losses but I now have peace knowing my family is together on the Other Side.

Thank you again for the comfort.

May God Bless You Everyday!

Stacy (I’m withholding her last name)

Death does not end life, love, or relationships. If you’ve lost someone you loved, you will see him or her again. I promise.

I feel your peace.

Anthony

http://www.anthonyquinata.com

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What is a good psychic reading?

I was doing readings at the bookstore today for whomever wanted one (they had to pay for a reading, of course). A woman came in, bought some books and asked the owner if I was available. When we sat down and I started, I knew immediately she was another psychic type, and I told her so. She pursed her lips together and nodded, but didn’t say anything.

I also knew that she was stuck. I talked about all of the jobs she was doing to make ends meet. “Just last night my 15 year old daughter was saying that she never sees me anymore, I work so much. I don’t know what to do to change it though.”

“Why haven’t you written your book yet?” I asked her.

“Everyone I’ve ever gotten a reading from has said that!” she said shaking her head.

“And?”

“I guess I have a book in me, but I don’t know what it is.”

“Well, let’s see if we can figure it out,” I told her. We talked about her work with herbs, crystals and her spirituality that had it’s roots in Haiti. “If it interests you, it’s interesting to others,” I told her. “It doesn’t even have to be a traditional book. I see you writing something about 30 pages, with a cardboard cover, and stapled in the middle. Just make sure what you write is from your heart and helps people.”

By the time her session was over, she was smiling and confident that she could, in fact, write the book that was inside of her. “You’re good,” she told me, “no one else has been able to help me like you just did.”

After seeing her I gave another Clairvoyant reading to a young lady. I don’t like knowing specific issues someone is dealing with until I’m done with the “book flap” part of the reading. Even after I told her this, she told me she wanted to know about the man she was seeing.

I told her about the man I was “seeing.” I told her that her family, particularly her father didn’t like this guy. “Oh they hate him,” she said.

“The reason is because he’s so damned irresponsible. He’s not working now, right?” Sally (not her real name) nodded her head.

“You’re thinking of getting a second job because he’s not working, and you’re not making enough money for the two of you,” I continued.

Sally just nodded without saying anything.

“You’re also wondering if there’s a future with him. The answer is ‘no.’ You’ve got this thing going inside your head that says that you’re helping him. You’re not, you’re enabling him.”

She sat there staring at me wide-eyed for a minute, then said, “Wow.”

I’m not known for telling people what they want to hear. If they’re coming to me, I’m going to tell them what they need to hear. Some people don’t like it.

Will she leave him due to what I said, not know her or him? I don’t know. I doubt it though.

My point is, in my opinion, if you’re going to see a psychic for a reading, you should be able to get something concrete from him or her as to what to do regarding your issue(s) that moves you forward, should you choose to do so. That’s how you can decide if your time and money have been well spent.

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“…because evil exists.”

I just finished a session with a young woman, I’ll call her Melanie, who came to me for a Clairvoyant session. She’s been struggling with her life lately, and a friend of hers told her that she should talk to me. She had been to see four readers before and the readings “weren’t that impressive. They went from bad to worse.”

In fact, one of the readers she saw did the reading in her robe and told her that if she didn’t pay her more money, then her problems would continue to worsen. Here’s a tip. If any “psychic” tells you that … put your money or your credit card back in your wallet or pocketbook, and put your wallet back in your purse or pocket. Then leave.

So she talked to another friend who has seen me as well. “You’ll love him. He won’t tell you what you want to hear, but he’ll tell you what you need to hear at the time you see him.” With that she decided to take a chance and book an appointment with me.

When I do a Clairvoyant session, either in person or over the phone, I ask the person to tell me their first, middle and last name. I do this for two reasons. The first is that it’s a way to get permission from them to read their energy. The second, and sometimes more important reason … it helps me to remember their name!

After they say their name I then start to receive impressions much the same way I do during a medium session, so I won’t go into that. The primary difference is that during a Clairvoyant session, I see what looks like a “film” to me, sort of a movie of their life. Oh, and the energy I expend is much less than during a Medium discernment; kind of like running a 10k as opposed to a marathon race (neither of which I do!).

While Melanie was saying her name I immediately felt that she was living her life filled with fear, confusion and a great deal of uncried tears. When I looked for the reason why, I picked up that she had been sexually abused.

Normally during the first ten to fifteen minutes of a session I do what I call a “book flap reading. ” In other words, it’s a short and concise summation of where their life is now. It gives me an idea as to what  the “book” (their life) is about. During this time I can also see where they might be stuck, and need help moving on.

In Melanie’s case, my initial impressions were all about the sexual abuse she endured. The focus of her life so to speak began, and ended there. Before she could move on with her life, I had to help her heal this part of her life. I was about to say that “everything happens for a reason so that some good can come out of it,” when I heard a voice in my head say, “STOP! Don’t say that!”

“Well, I want to know what the reason is that this happened to her,” I replied silently back to the voice I hear during these readings – a voice I believe comes from God. I’ll be honest, I had to contain my anger at what happened to her when I asked this. “What good is supposed to come from this?”

“There was no reason that this had to happen.” I sat there stunned. “Everything happens for a reason,” I thought.

“The reason this happened is because evil exists. That’s all.”

I told Melanie what I heard. Finally, after all the years of keeping it in, she let the tears start to flow. She didn’t have to try a “higher good” that would come from what happened to her. All she had to do was grieve. I could feel from the energy coming from her heart that it was what she needed to hear. She didn’t have to justify what happened to her, all she had to do was feel her anger at what happened to her, and know that it was okay to be angry.

Whether someone comes to see me, or I’m talking to them on the phone, my first task is to see them as God sees them – as perfect; and beautiful. I wanted Melanie to see herself as beautiful despite what happened to her. I was happy to see that she began to do just that by the time the session was over. She still has a lot of tears to cry, but she also sees that she has a lot of life to live.

I like to end my face to face sessions with a hug. A lot of times painful, even embarrassing issues come up, and this is my way of letting the person know there’s no judgment on my part as to what I heard. I asked her if I could give her one.

“I’m not normally someone who hugs,” she said, “but I’ve been wanting to give you one for a while now.” As we hugged each other I thought, “Well, that’s a step forward in the right direction!”

Melanie, you’re a very brave woman in my eyes, and in the eyes of God too.

I feel your peace.

Anthony

http://www.anthonyquinata.com

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